So I added this new "Stumble" feature to my Firefox and I happened across this website...
http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating_60/70_dating_list.html
... and of course it got me thinking.
Now, don't jump to conclusions... I thought there was some truth to a number of them, but I don't agree with everything put forth in the article. Anyways, back to me thinking (of course about double standards)...
So first I was wondering what's the whole deal with makeup. Makeup? Yes, makeup.
Whoever said you had to wear it, ladies? I'm not trying to speak for all the fellas out there, but first, some of you need to lighten up a bit. And secondly, I like you just the way you are - feeling and looking beautiful in your own skin. I mean, if I don't like you then I am sure there is somebody else out there that likes you just the way you are (that is without all the makeup). And, don't catch me wearing makeup without being a celebrity or something, because I might get called 'flamin' in a heartbeat. I know, I know... you guys have your blemishes and pimples and so forth, but I'm gonna love you "flaws and all" - if you will. I wake up with a pimple, check it out in the mirror, verify it's a pimple, and keep it movin. But, I digress... I know some of you have become machines and that it's just a part of your daily routine. And, I also know that it's probably because mom or big sis told you that it's just what you were supposed to do, but the real question is - why haven't you questioned that yet? Anyways...
My next beef - the military. No, not the military, itself, but more specifically the military draft. Has our culture already established that women are incapable of fulfilling the same duties to their country as a man can? Or, is it that the men of our culture are trying to protect their pride because they don't want to be shown up by a lady? Regardless, why is it that men are drafted and women get to volunter?
This brings me to my next blurb - housewives. First, I want to say this... I know that our culture has established that women are left at home to nurture and protect our youth, while our men are fighting for our country. But, look at it this way... When our men are overseas "fighting for our country", it is undoubtedly true that men, WOMEN, and CHILDREN end up tragedies of war. Furthermore, why is it that we expect our women back at home (who have not been trained) to put up any resemblance of a resistance to insurgents of our nation? We all should know that women greatly outnumber men in our country, so maybe we should give up this whole housewives concept and move towards drafting (and training) women... or maybe make it all voluntary.
I know that some ladies are opposed to the idea of being a housewife, but the word exist for some reason. What I mean to say is that the word "househusband" exists; it just carries a stigma around it saying I'm "a guy who clearly wears the skirt or dress in the relationship."
Check out what dictionary.com has to say...
Housewife versus Househusband and notice the subtle differences.
Anyways, speaking of marriages and relationships and all that jazz, I had just one more thing to add.
My Mom used to always tell my big sister that "If you put your hands on your man or you strike him, then you'd better be prepared to be struck and you had better not be surprised if you are. You're the one who told him you were ready to get physical." Yes, I have seen the statistics (Dometic Violence), indeed they are appalling, and I am ashamed that the stereotypes associated with these findings may affect my relationships. However, many of you may not know there is another side to the story - DVAM.
Regardless of the points made on either website, I think it would just be fair if frustration in a relationship never escalated to a physical nature. I don't know how others feel about this, but I am curious to know what others think about what my mom and other moms have had to say.
Anyways I could go on for days about the double standards in culture, but my big question is - why haven't others been questioning?
Women have fought their entire lives to gain equality to men and I think they are MORE than deserving of it. That being said, I still think that women (and men alike) carry double standards and expectations that contest the equality that they have willed for and so been granted.
http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating_60/70_dating_list.html
... and of course it got me thinking.
Now, don't jump to conclusions... I thought there was some truth to a number of them, but I don't agree with everything put forth in the article. Anyways, back to me thinking (of course about double standards)...
So first I was wondering what's the whole deal with makeup. Makeup? Yes, makeup.
Whoever said you had to wear it, ladies? I'm not trying to speak for all the fellas out there, but first, some of you need to lighten up a bit. And secondly, I like you just the way you are - feeling and looking beautiful in your own skin. I mean, if I don't like you then I am sure there is somebody else out there that likes you just the way you are (that is without all the makeup). And, don't catch me wearing makeup without being a celebrity or something, because I might get called 'flamin' in a heartbeat. I know, I know... you guys have your blemishes and pimples and so forth, but I'm gonna love you "flaws and all" - if you will. I wake up with a pimple, check it out in the mirror, verify it's a pimple, and keep it movin. But, I digress... I know some of you have become machines and that it's just a part of your daily routine. And, I also know that it's probably because mom or big sis told you that it's just what you were supposed to do, but the real question is - why haven't you questioned that yet? Anyways...
My next beef - the military. No, not the military, itself, but more specifically the military draft. Has our culture already established that women are incapable of fulfilling the same duties to their country as a man can? Or, is it that the men of our culture are trying to protect their pride because they don't want to be shown up by a lady? Regardless, why is it that men are drafted and women get to volunter?
This brings me to my next blurb - housewives. First, I want to say this... I know that our culture has established that women are left at home to nurture and protect our youth, while our men are fighting for our country. But, look at it this way... When our men are overseas "fighting for our country", it is undoubtedly true that men, WOMEN, and CHILDREN end up tragedies of war. Furthermore, why is it that we expect our women back at home (who have not been trained) to put up any resemblance of a resistance to insurgents of our nation? We all should know that women greatly outnumber men in our country, so maybe we should give up this whole housewives concept and move towards drafting (and training) women... or maybe make it all voluntary.
I know that some ladies are opposed to the idea of being a housewife, but the word exist for some reason. What I mean to say is that the word "househusband" exists; it just carries a stigma around it saying I'm "a guy who clearly wears the skirt or dress in the relationship."
Check out what dictionary.com has to say...
Housewife versus Househusband and notice the subtle differences.
Anyways, speaking of marriages and relationships and all that jazz, I had just one more thing to add.
My Mom used to always tell my big sister that "If you put your hands on your man or you strike him, then you'd better be prepared to be struck and you had better not be surprised if you are. You're the one who told him you were ready to get physical." Yes, I have seen the statistics (Dometic Violence), indeed they are appalling, and I am ashamed that the stereotypes associated with these findings may affect my relationships. However, many of you may not know there is another side to the story - DVAM.
Regardless of the points made on either website, I think it would just be fair if frustration in a relationship never escalated to a physical nature. I don't know how others feel about this, but I am curious to know what others think about what my mom and other moms have had to say.
Anyways I could go on for days about the double standards in culture, but my big question is - why haven't others been questioning?
Women have fought their entire lives to gain equality to men and I think they are MORE than deserving of it. That being said, I still think that women (and men alike) carry double standards and expectations that contest the equality that they have willed for and so been granted.
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